Searching for our tree of life

I'm starting to realize more and more that our experiences in life (whether good or bad) shape our view of the world around us. There's a couple who used to be members of our church and are now at PCC (they are my age if not a little older, he's going back for a graduate degree). Every time my Sunday School teacher mentions them he mentions that they really want to have a baby and are having trouble, and my heart just aches for them. I remember the pain, and I hurt for them. I feel the same empty feeling in the pit of my stomach that I always felt when we were TTC and people would announce a pregnancy. My perspective is different because of my struggle with infertility. I'm not saying that other people cannot feel compassion for this couple, I'm sure they do, but with my experience I understand some of the feelings they are feeling. Had I gotten pregnant right away I may just hear that announcement and think..."oh, that's too bad" and then go my way without another thought. Today I'm praying for that couple, and thinking of them even though I've met them very briefly only once. God has many reasons for what we go through. We can rejoice better when others have a victory that we've also had. We learn how to "weep with those that weep" as the Bible commands us when we know and personally feel what other people are going through. Does that make the situation better as you're going through rough times? I would say no and yes. We are human and we will feel pain, there's no getting around that. I do believe though that if we draw close to God and keep his plan in the forefront of our minds our perspective can be good and even sometimes positive as we go through trials. I also think that rejoicing and getting to celebrate with people when they receive blessings and knowing  the same feeling of receiving your hearts desire is an experience like no other.